Dear Eva,
As per our telephone conversation today, I just want to extend my
friendship to you, and if you need someone to talk to, don't ever
hesitate to call me. My heart really goes out to you. I wish that
there was a way to take the hurt and loss away. Time will heal, and
if by chance you get that Baba son that you told me about today, he
would at least ease the pain some, and you will have a part of Baba
with you. I look at my Boy now, and all that I can think about is
Baba. They look very much alike, especially in the face. They have
the same head/face.
You are in my thoughts and in my prayers. May peace be with you Eva.
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Eva,
My heart goes out to you Eva. Having lived with dog aggression in
the past, I can tell you that only time will ease the ache you are
feeling right now.
Don't hold it too much against Rambo. He cannot reason why you are
sad or why you are angry, he only knows that he loves you and for
some reason you are upset. Forgiveness is hard I know to find in the
face of such tragedy, but it will ease some of the burden you are
feeling and help mend a broken heart.
My heartfelt condolences,
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Dear Eva,
Again, let me express my heartfelt sympathy for you and Tony
regarding Babba. As you know, I am Babba's BIGGEST FAN...
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Eva – I was so sorry to learn of your loss of your Baba. He was a
beautiful dog and produced wonderful IGs. I can see him in my lovely
Maya who was sired by him. She has the most wonderful temperament
and although close to 17” tall, she is so beautiful to look at. He
certainly stamped a certain “look” on his offspring. I share your
sorrow and I know you will see him in all of the IGs that he sired.
I know there will never be another Baba, but he still lives on in
all his beautiful children. With deepest sympathy –
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Dear Eva,
I was heartbroken to hear of your sudden loss, as your "dog friends"
well
know it could have happen to any of us. It is a reality check for
some of
us who sometimes forget that are best friends are a different
species and
will act with behaviors that are perfectly reasonable to them.
I hope with time you will stop blaming yourself and will bond again
with
Rambo. He can not be more then what he is, and that is a dog.
Forgive
yourself and forgive Rambo.
Several years ago I had a cat named Tang and took in a rescue dog, I
thought
I was managing the situation by giving the dog and cat different
living
spaces, but one day the the two had contact with each other and the
cat
lost. It was a horrible loss and a powerful lesson.
Please know that I am thinking of you and that my heart is with you
during
this time.
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Dear Eva,
My heart goes out to you for the loss of your friend, Bubba. When I
visited your home for the first time in September, I knew right away
that it was a warm, loving environment and that you had carefully
considered every single element involved with the care and happiness
of your animals. Bubba, as well as all of your animals, know they
are loved. Of that I'm certain.
We can be so hard on ourselves when tragedy occurs. Perhaps I could
have prevented the death of my Pomeranian had I read the signs of
his coming heart failure accurately. But when he did start to fail,
my husband and I did everything we could and this gives me some
comfort. With time, I find myself remembering how happy he was on
his last day when we took him canoeing, how he played with Myia, his
"smile" as I believe dogs are capable of doing. The feeling that I
somehow let him down is fading though I think I'll always feel a bit
sad when I think too hard.
I think it's ok to feel angry with Rambo right now. I can't begin to
imagine the hurt you are feeling. But I do know that the anger will
also lessen and you'll be able to come around to him once more. It's
heartbreaking when we're let down by something we love so much (like
troubled teenage daughters). Let yourself be sad. It's ok.
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Hi Eva,
I am sorry to hear about your Baba.
I know how sad it is to lose one of our beloved pets so I feel sorry
for you today.
Remember though that we are still dealing with animals who have
minds of their own and sometimes do things we don't understand as
human beings. I know I would be the same as you wondering what I
"could have" done different, but try and focus on what's ahead of
you and go on.
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Dear Eva:
My heart is aching for you and your suffering as well as for Bab and
Rambo.
Only God knows sometimes why things happen and no matter how much we
question or chastise ourselves, life is sometimes beyond our
control.
For many years ( probably at least 10) i lived with 2 terrier
bitches who had several fights. The youngest one was a grand
daughter who developed a jealous hatred of the grandmother. We felt
like we lived on Golan Heights-waiting for next shot to be fired. I
had to keep them separated and even let outside in separate yards.
My mother wanted me to sell the younger one or place her but i never
wanted anyone else to bear the responsibility of her. Our home was
like a war zone with gates fastened with screen door hooks (child
proof ones ) and even patio screen door reinforced with heavier
metal pieces.
My now 15 yr. old male HATEs all the other males on premises.
One son in particular- he has had a number of fights including one
on Christmas day in my kitchen when a former neighbor (who knew the
dogs well) let all the boys in from yard while i was downstairs
cleaning their runs. Dinner was put on hold and a run to Emergency
Vet. hospital required. In spite of constant vigilance there have
been several occasions when things escalate quickly.
PLEASE do not beat yourself up over this tragic incident. We can't
let our love for our animals keep us from the moments of grief which
occasionally occur.
Take care. My prayers are with you.
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Eva,
I cannot know how you feel, but I can say I understand your sorrow.
You feel such sadness at your loss of BABA and frustration with
Rambo.. Time will heal these wounds and time will give you the
wisdom to help understand that it was not your fault. Hindsight id
always easy... So be patient.... and my sorrow and sympathy is with
you.
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I"m glad we talked, I hope it helped. Our hearts get broken but in
time we will heal some, but we never will forget all our loved ones.
You are great friend and if I have you helped you through your grief
I will feel good.
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Dear Eva,
The great challenge when facing loss is learning how to move
forward.
At first it feels like you can't move an inch forward, so great is
the grief, but slowly, slowly it will be possible to move out of the
past, while never forgetting it. In the beginning you will take baby
steps and then bigger steps and, finally, after a while (and this is
different for each person in each situation) you will stride with
big
steps. I will be thinking of you as you find your pace to move
forward.
Your friends are wise - you must stop beating yourself up over what
has happened. It was NOT your fault, nor was it Rambo's fault. It
could have happened at any time, under any circumstance, but it
happened when it did and that was beyond anyone's control. I hope
you
will find a place in your heart, as you heal, for forgiveness for
both you and Rambo. He is your boy too and he has no idea why you
are
upset. I remember how much you love him.
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Eva - I just now got your message even though it looks like you sent
it
early this morning! I've been thinking about you ALL day, and tried
calling
you today, but there was no answer.
The e-mail messages people have written you have been wonderful. I
agree
with all of them. You are not to blame for not being able to predict
animal
instinctual behavior.
You are such a loving and exceptional doggy mommy. Baba was lucky to
have
you as a mother, and all the other babies are lucky too.
I may try to call you within the next few days. PLEASE call if you
ever
want to talk, or cry, or whatever. Don't forget - I'm a counselor,
by
profession, but more importantly, I'm your friend.
Please extend my condolences to Tony as well.
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Dear Eva, I am so sorry to hear about Baba, I know how much you
loved him. Please do not beat yourself. Guilt is like a cancer it
will eat your heart out. Live with the wonderful memories you have
of him. I am so glad that I have a beautiful Baba son. I can
remember seeing him at eight months old and thinking what a nice
stud he would make for my Girl . My Boy needs one more eye exam and
then if it is alright I will breed to to a friend of mine. In that
way Baba's legacy will live on. I will not tell you not to cry mourn
and grieve for him. In that way it will help you to get over this
loss. Only time will heal your sadden heart and maybe holding some
of his grand kids will help. My prayers and thoughts are with you at
this time.
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Hi Eva:
I am so very sorry to learn about Baba. It is so hard to understand
why
these things happen - we all are tortured in some way when it comes
to our
beloved dogs, but just think of the loss of never having had Baba.
My very
first min pin was killed on the road outside our house late one
night, and
I always blamed myself for letting her out and not attending to her.
That
was before our invisible fence. It was so painful to me and I
thought I
would never get over it. But I was assured by my vet that she felt
no pain
due to her head injury but oh my it was dreadful. But we all loved
her so
much and we so lucky to have her.
Baba was lucky too - I see you with your dogs - you adore them and
apparently you were not at home when this tragedy occurred so you
did not
have control of it.
You have to forgive Rambo - he has those deep feelings of love for
you - you
would be abandoning him, and those feelings will be equally hard to
live
with.
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Hi Eva,
A very touching eulogy. I fell in love with Baba when he was at my
house breeding to my girl . He was a special boy and I wish he could
have been mine. I will never forget him either. I am thankful I have
children by him and also grandchildren. He will live on thru them .
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Dear Eva,
I pray that you find peace. This might help!
The lady who owns Flash (is an ANIMAL COMMUNICATOR.
SHE COULD TALK TO RAMBO AND FIND OUT WHAT HAPPENED.
I SUGGEST THIS AS A MEANS TO GET CLOSURE. This lady, Tina, is loving
and sweet, and very good at talking with the animals, even over the
phone! She can pick up on their energies.
If you want, I will give you her phone number. Let me know.
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Dear Eva,
I understand your heartache and your sorrow. Baba will always hold a
big place in your heart and the heart of all of us who have his
children
and grandchildren. There is no point in making yourself or Rambo
responsible. Maybe we do treat them too much like humans and forget
they
are really dogs who have a natural instinct to behave in a certain
way.
It is a mistake we all make and sometimes the consequences are
indeed
tragic. This is a very hard lesson in life but maybe we can be
grateful
to Rambo and Baba for this reminder that no matter how we love them,
no
matter how much a part of our life they are, they still are, at the
heart of it all, dogs with thousands of years of instincts and
behaviors
that sometimes drive them to do things we don't expect.
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Eva, I am so sorry to hear of Baba. I assume there was a fight.
I am SO SORRY for your loss. You are a fantastic and WONDERFUL mama
to all
your babies. I have seen first hand how you care for them and love
them
with all your heart.
There are so many things we can't foresee in this life - illnesses,
accidents, losses of all kinds. We all experience them. We're just
human -
there is so much we can't control. It's the nature of life on this
earth.
The pain you're feeling is a testament to your great ability to
love, and
how much you love your babies. It's also a testament to how much
Baba was
loved by you. He had a good life and was a lucky guy to have you as
a mama!
You'll make it through - it'll take time.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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I AM SO SORRY to hear about this. Please don't blame yourself for
not understanding IG language. No human can ever fully understand a
dog or know exactly what a dog is thinking. Please know how very
much I care.
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Eva, Eva, PLEASE don't continue to torment and beat yourself up
about this!
It was incredibly tragic but it was not your fault! Who would ever
think
two domesticated dogs who have lived together for years would do
this? Dogs
are our family - we love them more than anything - the are "humans"
to us.
But sometimes we are faced with the brutal reality that they are, in
fact
dogs and dogs will sometimes act like DOGS. We as humans don't pee
on
things or sniff each other - they do and naturally we not only
accept that,
we EXPECT it! And as you know they have their own hierarchy too.
Yes, we
try and keep them safe but sometimes things can happen. It's
nature...PEOPLE kill each other knowing it's wrong...with animals
it's (in
their mind) survival of the fittest. Yes, we humans try to step in
and
"mold" they to our wishes and keep them safe but sometimes nature
takes over
and it's out of our control.
We, all of your friends, are right their grieving with you. Baba was
an
incredibly wonderful dog in so many ways. His life here was destined
to be
too short but he does live on in his kids, and in our memories.
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Oh Eva,
My heart is breaking for you after reading your email. Some really
tragic happened to you and your beloved dogs and I'm so, so sorry.
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Hi Eva,
I was stunned to receive this email from you. You have my sincere
sympathy on the loss of Baba. I gather that he was killed by Rambo.
What a terrible tragedy. Having lost Sunny in March (she was only
10), I
know how the loss of your IG can hurt.
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Dear Eva,
It is so hard to understand why such accidents happen, but it was an
ACCIDENT! Even when things are right in front of us, we cannot
always prevent them. Baba now has peace, though you are without his
body and time will have to pass for you to renew your relationship
with Rambo. Hopefully time will fade the pain and bring you many
great memories.
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Hi Eva,
So sorry about BaBa it hurts that is going to take a long time to
get over. But, just remember the god times and the love in your
heart you had for him. Big dogs, and little dogs don't mix. They
never will. I, hope you will get over this time. If, I was there we
could hug and hold each other over this hurt. I, understand this
just happened and you a r e by yourself. , it makes it even harder.
This little darling dogs come into our lives and some out taken way
to soon. Take care Eva, I'll have a pray for all of you.
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Eva,
Thought that I'd share this with you.
Thanks to both of your for sending me
"In Memory of Baba"
I cried like a baby when reading Eva's heart wrenching message. Yes,
I know it can, and does happen. We love our pets with our whole
being and project "innocence" on them as they live by the rules of
nature and not our rules of logic.
Many years ago, I guess in the early 70's (I know it was before we
moved to Paramus) a family who lived two blocks away from us used to
walk a pair if Iggies on a brace leash. They were tiny and elegant
and everyone used to gaze at them in awe. At that time we had two
mini poodles who also walked on brace and my mother would meet up
with them every so often. Each time my mother saw the Iggies she
would tell the family how fortunate they were to have such lovely
dogs. The family was not friendly and seldom, if ever, even
acknowledged the attention from those they met on the street. Well,
one day one of the Iggys killed their prized young Persian cat, For
just a moment (s)he must have thought of the cat as prey, she ran
after it, naturally caught it, and snapped it's neck and that was
the end of the cat. The Iggy then dragged the dead cat around as a
trophy. The family moved out of town soon after and we never heard
another word about them.
I pray that none of us will ever have to suffer the way Eva is
suffering and that none of our four legged family members will ever
meet the fate of Baba.
Love and prayers to all!
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BABBA - We will forever
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